couples, dating, & break-ups
Are you struggling to find happiness in a relationship?
Humans are made for connection, but relationships can be some of the biggest pain points we experience in life. Whether you're single, dating, in a relationship, or breaking-up, Beachside Counseling can help you find happiness.
Healthy relationships are an
essential part of healthy living.
Humans are social creatures, and it’s vital that we feel supported and connected in our relationships. No relationship is perfect, but ongoing distress, arguing, and conflict may leave you feeling lonely, depressed, anxious, and resentful. Over time, these feelings can take a profound toll on your mental health and your relationship. At Beachside Counseling, we offer therapy to help navigate relationship issues in our San Diego practice. You can learn more on this page or by reaching out to schedule a consultation.
Why Consider Relationship Therapy (Even if You’re Not in a Relationship)
Relationship issues can come up for anyone, even if you're not in a relationship. For instance, you may feel frustrated by the dating scene because you can’t seem to find someone who treats you well or aligns with your values and life goals. You might be in a serious relationship, but you feel uncertain whether or not you want to stay committed. Or perhaps you’re coping with a divorce or break-up, and you feel stuck and don’t how to move forward. If any of these sound like you, it could be time to talk to a professional for extra support. Not being able to find that special someone or feeling like a failure at relationships may seem like silly reasons to consider therapy, but actually, learning the necessary skills to sustain healthy, meaningful relationships of all kinds can make your life much more fulfilling.
Whether you are single, dating, married, or struggling in a partnership, you deserve to be in a relationship that makes you feel valued and respected. Even if things are going “relatively well,” therapy can help you reassess your goals. It also provides a safe environment to explore each of your needs and achieve unity when tackling new issues.
"love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow."
- Brené Brown
Maybe you've been single for a while and are dreading dating again. Maybe you've been jumping from relationship to relationship, unable to find what you're really looking for. Or maybe you've just gotten out of a marriage or long-term relationship and aren't sure where to start rebuilding your life.
Therapy can help you identify your relationship needs, explore your attachment style, and work through challenging relationship patterns so you can find a fulfilling relationship when you're ready.
What to Expect From Therapy for Couples, Dating, & Break-Ups
Maybe you and your partner keep experiencing the same problems with no resolution. Maybe you feel frustrated or alone in your relationship, and you aren’t sure if things will get better. Perhaps something just feels stagnant- even if there aren’t any specific issues, it seems like the two of you are just running on auto-pilot, and you know things could improve.
Conflict can be a healthy dynamic in relationships. But conflict needs to be constructive and proactive- otherwise, it can lead to resentment, withdrawal, and trust issues. Learning how to approach conflict- and resolve it effectively- often requires changing the way you communicate with your partner.
It’s okay to struggle in your relationships and experience doubt or frustration when you’re looking for a new relationship. You don’t have to make big decisions about any of this until you feel ready, but if you are feeling dissatisfied, insecure, or ready to make a change in your relationships, you may benefit from additional support. After all, you deserve meaningful relationships that bring you happiness and fulfillment. Therapy can provide you with hope and practical solutions for building and maintaining satisfying relationships. When you make time to prioritize understanding your relationship needs and goals before you get into a relationship, you’ll be better able to create meaningful, lasting intimate relationships.
At Beachside Counseling, we can work together to focus on core issues within your current or past relationships, such as communication, intimacy, trust, and boundaries. I integrate concepts from attachment-based therapy, psychodynamic therapy, and cognitive-behavioral therapy to help clients explore their unique relationship needs. Throughout the course of therapy, you can rediscover your core values and identify any problematic patterns you wish to break in your current relationship or in a future relationship. We can also review past relationship issues and reassess how to avoid recreating the same dynamics in your future partnerships.
When is it time to seek help?
You can’t seem to find the “right” relationship
You’re in a relationship that feels more complicated than it should be
You feel insecure when you’re dating or in a relationship
Your relationship patterns leave you feeling empty
You struggle to get your needs met when you’re in a relationship
You have a history of choosing partners who aren’t right for you
You want to create new and healthy relationships in your life
You and your partner are struggling to communicate effectively
You and your partner are fighting or arguing… a lot
You and your partner want to reconnect with each other
You and your partner have gone through a big life change or loss
You and your partner aren’t on the same page about important topics
You and your partner are struggling to connect
You and your partner want to learn how to prioritize the relationship