self-esteem & self-worth
Do you struggle to know your inherent worth or value?
Many factors, such as trauma, bullying, peer pressure, and social media, can impact your self-esteem or self-worth.
If you’re hard on yourself, feel that you’re unworthy, or struggle to see yourself as valuable, Beachside Counseling is here to help.
The perceptions you have about yourself may be vastly different from who you really are.
Low self-esteem can impact your relationships, work performance, or physical health, and generally makes life tougher than It needs to be. It’s also associated with numerous mental health conditions, like depression, anxiety, substance use disorders, and eating disorders. Once you’ve gotten into the habit of thinking about yourself poorly, it can be difficult to change your negative thinking patterns and start improving your self-esteem, but therapy can help you change your thinking and increase your sense of self-worth.
Many people with poor self-esteem feel like they are frauds — it’s as if the world is just moments away from discovering your failures. You might know that self-compassion is an integral part of mental health. However, it can be challenging to draw upon self-compassion when you feel insecure or incompetent. It seems difficult to accept your unique talents when you feel “less than", but therapy can help you connect with the gifts you have to offer the world.
"our successes and failures come and go — they neither define us nor do they determine our worthiness."
- Kristin Neff
Your self-esteem and self-worth directly impacts your ability to feel love, joy, and happiness.
Low self-esteem can creep into every nook and cranny of your life — it can make you doubt your worthiness and second-guess yourself at work, at home, and in your relationships. And even when you receive validation from others, rather than improving your sense of self-esteem, their praise might actually make you feel worse. Therapy can help you begin to shift this negative thinking that holds you back, treat yourself with more kindness, and offer yourself more grace and compassion.
Feeling inadequate or struggling with low self-esteem often starts in childhood and can be traced back to painful experiences when you were younger. When that happens, low self-esteem is like a boulder you carry on your shoulders year after year in everything you do. You may have learned how to be successful despite the low self-esteem you struggle with, but it hasn't been easy. What if you didn't feel inadequate anymore and felt confident in your skills and ability to make decisions? Therapy can help you get there.
Low self-esteem doesn't have to hold you back anymore.
we will focus together on shame-based work, self-compassion, and early childhood experiences to help you shift your self-perceptions and gain a greater appreciation for who you are. You can learn how to accept your unique skills and talents while embracing areas of growth as opportunities for learning rather than flaws or inadequacies.
Together, we can reduce shame, deepen your sense of self-love, and set better boundaries for yourself. You won’t reach perfection (no one is perfect), but you can reach a gratifying place of self-acceptance.
When Is It Time To Seek Help?
If any of these feel familiar, therapy can help:
You feel inadequate or unworthy
You often compare yourself to other people
You judge yourself often and harshly
You don’t see yourself how everyone else sees you
You hold yourself back and let opportunities pass you by
You struggle to identify your unique gifts and talents
You want to learn how to step into your power
During therapy for self-esteem in our San Diego practice, you can learn skills to change the way you view yourself, improve your self-esteem, and increase your self-awareness in order to have a more realistic and positive sense of self. When you’re ready to get started, reach out to schedule your consultation. Beachside Counseling can help you improve your sense of self-worth for a more fulfilling daily life.